Throughout school we make many friends and we are all naive enough to believe that our friendships will last an eternity, but sadly with many people that is not the case. I, myself, have experienced this and this was not helped by my growing anxiety.
During school, I always had my close group of friends which consisted of about four or five people. However, I was friendly with everybody in my classes as I was one of the individuals which always had a spare pen, or was there if you needed someone to turn to. Moving through high school, I began to realise that those individuals I felt were my best friends during primary school, were actually not for the most part and I seemed to grow further and further apart from them all as they made new friends with what were seen to be the ‘popular’ kids, and therefore I was effectively left behind.
There was a positive to growing apart from those friends as it allowed me to grow as a person and gradually become more confident as I was often very shy and would only talk when spoken to. I became closer and closer to the few existing primary school friends, as well as becoming closer to friends that I had made through starting high school.
When leaving high school,everyone rights nice comments in your leavers book and exclaim how they will keep in touch etc, but this is sadly a rarity as life takes over and we all begin to follow our own paths. Some go off to start a family, whereas others are career driven, and some continue through the education system because they need a buffer to figure out what they really want to do, or because they have it set what they want their future to be like.
Beginning sixth form I thought I knew exactly what I wanted to do as a career, but this soon changed as I learnt more about myself as well as the potential careers and paths I could go down. I have ended up having to rethink my future entirely as I realise that my idea of the future when I was fifteen or sixteen years old was not realistic at all. I am still in the education system, but now also working in order to work towards moving out and beginning my life and eventually being able to have my own little family, whereby myself and my partner are both financially stable, happy mentally, and able to give our potential children the best start in life, where they are supported and loved unconditionally.
I am so very thankful for everyone who I still consider to be a close friend, whether we have been friends for years or even if it is a more recent affair. These past few years have really made me realise what I want in life, as well as helped me to value how precious life is and that we should never take anything for granted.
‘Friendship… is not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything’ – Muhammad Ali
Love your little alien